{"id":585,"date":"2016-06-12T18:02:16","date_gmt":"2016-06-12T09:02:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/maryanilasasil.wordpress.com\/?p=585"},"modified":"2016-06-12T18:02:16","modified_gmt":"2016-06-12T09:02:16","slug":"wedding-cultures-in-japan-and-the-philippines","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/maryanila.com\/?p=585","title":{"rendered":"Wedding Cultures in Japan and the Philippines"},"content":{"rendered":"

Wedding is one of the most celebrated events in one\u2019s life all over the world. It is interesting to note that saying \u201cI do\u201d and the intricate details of getting married may be the same, slightly different or the complete opposite in one culture from another culture.<\/p>\n

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In this article, we will talk about the wedding cultures in Japan and the Philippines. Being a Filipina living in Japan for few years now, I am confident to say that I can at least share to you a little knowledge about this matter straight from my own experience. Some of it you may already know and some may surprise you. Some might make you feel glad that you are born Japanese or Filipino or the other way around.<\/p>\n

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Japan<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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Getting married in Japan is very practical and let me say very realistic. Let me enumerate them one by one.<\/p>\n

1<\/b>. Getting married in the city hall.<\/b><\/p>\n

A couple can get married officially by going to the city hall and file a report of marriage. All you need to do is fill up a form where two witnesses sign, submit a paper proving you are eligible to get married, some pertinent documents like family register and that\u2019s it. Once you submit these documents, get a marriage certificate, you\u2019re officially married. This is the only way to legally get married in Japan. The marriage date is when you submit the papers.<\/p>\n

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2. Wedding ceremony.<\/b><\/p>\n

It is a common practice for Japanese to have a wedding ceremony after the official marriage in the city hall. The ceremony can be traditional or western style. This is when the couple with their families invite relatives and friends to celebrate with them.<\/p>\n

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3. Wedding clothes<\/b><\/p>\n

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In a traditional Japanese wedding, the bride and groom wear the traditional wedding clothes. A black montsuki kimono and hakama for the groom and white shiromuku kimono for the bride. The couple also change attire to a more western style during the reception. Some brides get to change to three to five different gowns during the wedding party.<\/p>\n

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\nThe guests usually put on a formal wear, usually dark colors. It is not uncommon to see guests wearing black dresses.<\/p>\n

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4. Money gift<\/b><\/p>\n

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This part of the wedding culture of Japan make a lot of foreigners\u2019 eyes bulge and mouth utter a big \u201cWHAAT?!\u201d in surprise. In Japan, all invited guests, even family, will have to give a certain amount of (big) money to the newly wed. Immediate family should give the largest amount of money, especially the eldest sibling, usually up to \u00a5100,000. or more and friends should give at least \u00a530,000. This money will help the newly wed cover for the wedding expenses. A very good idea, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n


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5. Wedding Souvenirs<\/b><\/p>\n

Wedding souvenirs in Japan are not just ordinary cute display. Couples usually give their guests something that can be used at home like kitchen wares. On the first Japanese wedding I attended, I got a set of three ceramic food containers. It\u2019s so awesome. In another wedding, we got a half dozen of glass.<\/p>\n

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6. Wedding party<\/b><\/p>\n

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Wedding party does not end at the reception. They usually have a nijikai, an after party or a second party. Others even have sanjikai, a third party. Guests, especially the young ones go to clubs or karaoke and drink like there\u2019s no tomorrow.<\/p>\n

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Philippines<\/b><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Marriage in the Philippines can range from the very simple mass wedding, where many couples are wed at the same time, to the very elaborate grand wedding.<\/p>\n

1. Pre-marriage preparation<\/b><\/p>\n

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Getting married in the Philippines traditionally starts in a pamanhikan<\/b>. This is when the man and his parents go to the woman\u2019s house and ask permission to her parents to marry her. There is a small celebration and eat together during this occasion. In a very traditional family, there is a so-called dowry. It is the money and\/or precious gifts given by the man\u2019s family to the woman\u2019s family as a symbol of gratitude. But, nowadays, pamanhikan and dowry are slowly disappearing.<\/p>\n

Before a wedding ceremony can take place, a couple must secure a marriage license from the city hall, and undergo a pre-cana seminar, a seminar required by the Catholic church. Another pre-marriage preparation that is trending recently is having a pre-nuptial photoshoot. Unbelievably, Filipinos spend so much money for this photoshoot. Blame it to the social media and the photo fanatic society.<\/p>\n

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2. Wedding ceremony<\/b><\/p>\n

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Eighty percent of the Filipinos are Roman Catholic, so most prefer to have a church wedding , although a couple can also have a civil wedding less the hassle of submitting a bunch of requirements for a church wedding. Both church wedding and civil wedding are legally recognized.<\/p>\n

There are so many superstitious beliefs that surround a Filipino wedding ceremony. You might as well do a separate research for this. A church wedding is a mass with the traditional ceremony including the lighting of the candle, putting on veil, putting on cord, and passing of coins, each with a specific meaning.<\/p>\n

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3. Wedding clothes<\/b><\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a> White wedding gown is the usual trend among Filipino brides matched with tuxedo for men. It is also common for men to wear barong tagalog, the traditional costume for Filipino men. A color motif is also a tradition in Philippine weddings. If the color motif is light green, everything should have at least a touch of light green, from the entourage\u2019s clothes, guests\u2019 clothes, reception decoration, cake, invitation card, and everything in between.<\/p>\n

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This is one tradition that has been passed from generations to generations. In some point during the wedding party, the newly-wed will have their first dance as a married couple and while they are dancing, guests will pin money on their clothes. The relatives of the groom will pin on the bride\u2019s clothes and the bride\u2019s relatives pin on the groom\u2019s. The money collected will serve as a gift to the couple.<\/p>\n

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5. Wedding gifts<\/b><\/p>\n

The newly-wed receives gift from the guests. It can be as big as a washing machine or refrigerator or as small as a dozen of spoons. There is a part in the wedding party where couples open the biggest and the smallest gift.<\/p>\n

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6. Wedding party<\/b><\/p>\n

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Wedding parties in the Philippines  can be classified into two types. One is held in a commercial place like restaurant, hotel or resort. The other one is in the residence of one of the newly-weds (usually the bride’s). People in the city usually have their wedding receptions in commercial places and pay large sums of money for a specific number of guests. On the other hand, people from the countryside prefer to have the reception in their house and most of the neighbors (the entire community) take part in the celebration.<\/p>\n

Contrasting Points<\/b><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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  • Wearing black dress in Japan during a wedding celebration is alright but never in the Philippines. It is considered as a sign of disgust and sadness.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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    • Filipino guests don\u2019t have to give money gift to the newly-wed like in Japan, instead, material gifts are given to the couple which are commonly household items to help the newly-wed in their start of a new life together. Rather, the newlywed can receive money through money dance.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      One of the many interesting things you\u2019ll learn from living abroad is that you get to know the foreign country\u2019s culture and your own culture more deeply as well.<\/p>\n

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