Category: Diary

  • How to distinguish Japanese from Korean and Chinese

    How to distinguish Japanese from Korean and Chinese

    Can you tell if a person comes from a specific country? Before coming to Japan, I had no idea how to distinguish Japanese, Korean and Chinese from one another. I had quite a few experience (when I was in the university as an international student) of trying to speak Japanese to a fellow student who I thought is Japanese, but after all, turned out to be Korean or Chinese (who is new to Japan and cannot speak Japanese). To avoid future embarrassment of assuming someone is not, let me discuss their similarities and differences. This is according to my observations and the opinions of my friends with who I discussed the subject.

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    Similarities

    1. Skin.

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    Japanese, Korean and Chinese, generally, have the same skin characteristics. It is popular that their skin is more resistant to aging and that they have fair, light porcelain-like skin. It is due to extreme sensitivity to environmental factors and chemical effects of some products, which can disrupt the pH balance. For this reason, advertising about skin beauty care in Asian countries is very economical as Japanese, Korean and Chinese (especially girls) have to be more careful with products and treatments they use on their skin. It is even impressive to see the number of skin care products build on the myth that Asian skin would look amazing and healthy for a long time. so, it is hard to tell who is who if you only look at their skin. 


    2. Body built


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    There are of course differences in body built among Japanese, Korean and Chinese people.  As human as we are, we can be fat, thin, big or small. It all depends on our individual diet and consumption, not to mention our genes. Although we have a general impression as to how, for example, an American body tend to be (tall and big). Asians, specifically Japanese, Korean and Chinese, are typically of slim body built and kind of short in terms of height. But be careful not to label all of them slim and short, because, as I have said, everyone is different. Some can still be tall, big and fat.


    Differences

     1. Facial Features.

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    They may look the same, but if you are a keen observer, there are a few distinguishing characteristics. The Japanese face is generally longer and wider, while the Korean face often has a more prominent jaw and high cheekbones. The Chinese face is typically round in shape. When it comes to the windows of the soul, the Japanese eyes are often described as angled upwards, contrary to the Chinese eyes which are usually angled downwards. Koreans often have smaller eyes.


    2. Dressing style

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    My Japanese friend told me it is easy to tell whether a person is Japanese or Korean. Just look at how they dress. Japanese people value harmony and uniformity, hence, when they dress up, it is something aimed to blend with the majority. Plain, simple and subtle colors are the key to typical Japanese attire. Nothing that stands out. I observed that wearing suit is very common in Japan. May it be a final (research) presentation in school, a job internship, a job interview, graduation; Japanese usually wear suits, in black and white (inner). Very seldom you can see a coloured inner. 

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    Contrary to Japanese, most Koreans wear bright and more colourful attire. I remember my Korean friend said in her culture presentation in school, that, unlike in Japan, they can wear nice colourful dresses when they do their internship and especially during job interview. Chinese, on the other hand, due to its high cultural diversity is difficult to distinguish

     

    Even up to now, after living for quite some time in Japan, it is still challenging for me to tell which is what, and who is who. Even people of the same race can look different. It is hard to generalize. We can never actually generalize. As the saying goes “Everyone is unique”.

  • Gone

    Gone

    When someone very close to us, someone we love,someone we consider a family is taken by an illness

    and is forever gone…

    We look back to old memories,

    recollect the happy times we spent together,

    recall how healthy and happy that person was back then.

    Those memories make us smile and as well make us cry.
    We somehow feel regret for the words being unsaid.

    For missing the opportunity to say we care, to say ‘I love you’. And most of all, we contemplate.

     Why?

    Why so soon?

    Why is life so unfair?

    But, in life, not all questions are answered.

    There’s nothing we can do but gather the pieces of our broken selves and continue to face the uncertainties of life.

  • Rose Festival in Huis Ten Bosch

    Rose Festival in Huis Ten Bosch

    Rose and festival – two completely different words but are both related to love, happiness and celebration. Just imagine these two words being used together. It is indisputably pleasurable experience.

    The Location

    Huis Ten Bosch is a Dutch-inspired theme park in Nagasaki. It is a huge park where the buildings and surroundings would make you feel you are in Europe, but in fact you are in the island of Kyushu, Japan. Here is the location: 1-1 Huis Ten Bosch Machi, Sasebo, Nagasaki Prefecture 859-3292

    You can do so many fun things in this park, but here I will talk primarily about the theme parks Rose Festival occurring in spring(around May to June).

       

     

    All About Roses

    One of the grandest flower celebrations in Huis Ten Bosch in Nagasaki is the Rose Festival. By the name itself, rose fanatics will certainly go crazy about it. The park boastof its one thousand varieties of rose which blooms in full during this event. There you will see that roses are not just red. There are so many different shades of colors. There are shades of red, pink, purple, yellow, orange. A blast of colors everywhere. Also you will see roses in different sizes and forms. Big, small, tiny. There are even single-petalled roses.The kinds or roses that you may have never seen before. Its absolutely amazing!

    My Experience 

    I can still remember even now how unexplainable the feeling was when I first experienced it four years ago. It was like heaven on earth. I was surrounded with roses. Everywhere I turned, there were roses. I smelled the air, smiled and said ‘cheese’ to my camera. And almost everyone who was there was doing the same. The sweet smell of the air was so amazingly pleasant. It was like I was in a fragrance commercial tipping my head back smelling the air.  It was ecstasy! That spot where roses of all colors and all sizes bloom is more than a ‘bed’ of roses. It was a ‘world’ of roses. 

    Conclusion

    If you like the pictures, how much more in  person? With its pretty colors, soft petals and pleasant fragrant, roses are just wonderful. A true nature’s gift. No wonder why so many girls are named Rose. It doesn’t only mean a flower. It means beauty. It means magnificence.

  • Mask, a Must?

    Mask, a Must?

    When I first came to Japan as a visiting relative, I was surprised to see a lot of people wearing masks. “What’s going on? Is there an epidemic?”, I curiously asked my sister who is married to a Japanese and has been living in Japan for many years. She explained that in Japan, it is normal for people to wear masks as protection from diseases and allergies.
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    Back in my home country, if you wear a mask in any public place or even in the comfort of your own house, you will get that kind of look from the people around you as if you are suffering from a serious disease.
    In my short visit to Japan, I could not avoid feeling weird every time I see a number of people around me wearing masks in public places. I felt like I was in a danger zone or in a scene from a disaster movie that anytime I can get sick and that I need to wear a mask, too, to protect me from the invisible enemy.
    Out of curiosity, I tried wearing one. I was not feeling comfortable with my nose and mouth covered. I felt suffocated. I did not like it. The first time I wore it was not a pleasant experience for me.
    When I came back to work in my country as a teacher, I tried wearing one while writing on the board to shield me from chalk dust and as expected, my students asked me if I was sick.
    Fast forward two years later in a public elementary school in Japan where I worked as an English teacher, I was so surprised when one winter morning, all my studentts wore masks, except me.
    Most of the teachers, too, wore masks . It was the flu season, so  everybody wore masks to avoid catching and spreading the virus.
    It is the one of the Japanese way of being polite and considerate to others. If you’re sick, wear it so as not to spread the virus.
    You can’t get sick and be absent. It’s a crime! But, that is, of course, an exaggeration. Japanese are very work-oriented people and being absent from work or school will mean a big deal.
    Masks are worn not only to avoid catching and spreading disease but I was told that it is also a way of keeping you warm in winter days. Winter in Japan gets really cold so wearing layers of clothing and a mask helps to keep you warm.
    So, is it a must to wear a mask? Well, come and experience Japan and decide it for yourself.
  • A Love Story Made in Japan

    A Love Story Made in Japan

    “Life is like a box of chocolates, you will never know what you’ll get”. “Love comes from the most unexpected places.” These two sayings remind me of the love story of my friend who thought will never find someone to love and to love her, but when she came to Japan, her black and white love story came to life in a colorful surprise.

    The Princess


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    My friend, let me call her Princess (as she is the princess of her own love story), was my closest buddy during my student life in Japan. We met on the first day when we came to Japan. We were under the same scholarship program, studied in the same university and lived in the same apartment building ( we lived next door to each other). Upon meeting her on the first day, I felt close to her right away even though we were totally strangers and came from different countries. She have this calming feature, very kind and calm appearance. She has long black hair and a natural tanned skin. A very simple thirty-year old lady. She is a high school teacher in her country, the youngest and the only daughter among three children. In her country, she told me that her routine was school and home, home and school and that she never had a boyfriend ever since. She focused her attention on her career and came to Japan to study for professional advancement. One time, she told me that she might not marry at all because she finds herself unattractive and no man will love her for real.  …But she was definitely wrong.
    The Prince


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    The Prince in this story, is a 27 year-old guy from the same country where my friend comes from. A scholar like us, he studied in the same university and also lived in the same apartment compound where we lived, but in a different building. This guy, like my friend, had never had a girlfriend ever before. He is tall and has a slim body type. He seldom talks and always have this shy look in his eyes. But when my friend gets in trouble, like that one time when she needed a laptop for our presentation, he was always there to help. Small things like how to use the (Japanese) washing machine, air conditioner, etc, he was always the hero. That’s how they get closer and closer.

    How they met


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    Our Kaikan (international students’ dormitory) was huge. There were seven buildings named A to G. About a hundred international students were housed in that dormitory. In our Kaikan, it was common for the residents (usually people from the same country) to get together and have cooking parties on weekends. It is hard when you live abroad by yourself and there are times you really get homesick so having friends around who speak your language and eat the same food is a great relief. That is how they first met. They never met in their own country but they met in Japan. It was an instant attraction like two searching souls who have finally found their mates. But it was hard at first, because both of them are kinda shy and no experience. But when love moves, it moves mountains. They started first as friends sharing experiences, to close friends helping each other and then after a few months, to first-time lovers.

    The Present

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    To make the long story short, after a year and a half of studying and dating in Japan, they’re now both back in their country. They had finished their scholarships. They did not only get the educational advancement they came for in the first place in Japan but they also have found the love they’ve been waiting for. At present, they just celebrated their first wedding anniversary . the Princess and Prince living  happily ever after.
  • Earthquake in Kyushu: That Shaky Experience

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    April 14, 2016, Thursday evening, I was on our living room sitting on the floor playing  with my laptop on the low center table. I was all alone that night since my husband was at his part-time work. I was updating my iPhone, surfing the net and chatting with some friends and my family online (multi-tasking lol), when suddenly at 9:26, I got an alarm on my phone. I looked at the message on the screen but it was written in Japanese. I was wondering what it was. I thought it was some kind of an error because I just got my phone that afternoon, a new replacement phone for my broken phone and I was still updating it. Before I could ever comprehend the message on the screen, I heard my phone saying “Jishin desu.” repeatedly and jishin, as far as my  Japanese vocabulary can go, means an earthquake. Earthquake! I was like ‘What? Earthquake?’ What earthquake?’ What are you talking about? Is this new phone broken, too?’ But the events that followed stopped me from thinking what was going on and answered all the questions in my head. Just seconds after the alarm, the walls started shaking and that made me realize there was really an earthquake. Not a phone malfunction. The shaking got me panicking. I did not know what to do. At first, I thought that maybe it’s just an easy shake and it will stop right away, but, it didn’t. It kept going stronger. Scary thoughts were playing in my head. What if this is a strong one like the March 11th earthquake. What if the walls will break. What if the ceiling crushes down upon me. What if…what if..what if..I was scared. Then, I remembered our earthquake drill in school. We were told to “duck, cover and hold” during an earthquake. That instant, I covered my head, but with only my left hand since my right hand was holding the phone. That was crazy now that I think of it.  I looked around to find a place to cover me but there was nothing I could fit myself into. The table in front of me was too low, only my legs could fit in there. I was not able to think of the table in the kitchen. That would be perfect! I was stuck on where I was sitting just covering my head with one hand. That moment that you want to do something better but time is faster than you could ever think and move.

    After less than a minute, the shaking stopped. Thanks goodness, I thought. I messaged my husband and tried to call him but I couldn’t connect. I thought again that the new phone is broken, lol. But, it’s just that the phone network got crammed, that’s why. I was able to talk to him after several attempts and learned that he will be late because the trains has stopped operating for a while. I turned on the TV for updates. I gave updates to my family and friends telling them what’s going on. And the funny thing about it, was, even during the shaking, with my right hand holding the phone, I was still able to chat with my Filipina friends and family telling them there is an earthquake. It is kind of hilarious that even in a calamity, I am still “connected”. I also messaged my co-teachers living in my neighborhood who just moved to Japan from their countries checking on them if everything was alright. That made the chatting loooong, since many of them are not used to experiencing earthquakes in their homeland.

    During a calamity, it is really scary. You could think that it is the end of the world. But, when it is over and you see that the damage around you is not really that much or nothing at all, the situation becomes funny. I laughed thinking of myself during the earthquake sitting on the floor with one hand on my head and the other one holding the phone messaging. A friend whose Japanese language ability is more or less than a beginner said that he thought the alarm was just  a kind of cellphone virus and when it started shaking, he did not know what to do. Another friend said that she was just wearing an underwear and when it started shaking she grabbed her pajama and thought that she could never let herself die in an earthquake just wearing a panty. Lol! That really filled my stomach with air. One friend who was eating rice and bulad, a Filipino favorite dried fish,  with just her hands, as we call it nagkinamot, said she accidentally swallowed the whole bulad when the shaking started. Poor bulad, I mean, poor friend. Lol. Two other friends sent us their picture hiding under the kitchen table which seems that they’re scared and laughing at the same time. It is hilarious, but no, it is serious. Especially at the epicenter.

    The center of the earthquake is in Kumamoto. It was a 6.5 magnitude earthquake with a maximum of 7 according to news reports. It was only 4 in our area. There were about 103-106 aftershocks. I couldn’t sleep well that night because the aftershocks kept coming. Nine people have been confirmed dead, some even said 10. Hundreds of people are treated for injuries and thousands have evacuated for safety. The news in the morning the next day (which is today) made me really sad. Many people were on the streets wrapped in blankets gathered in open spaces for fear of after effects. Parents held their kids. A woman was interviewed and she cried while retelling her experience. News reports showed damaged houses and roads specifically in Mashiki Town. Even the Kumamoto Castle, the most famous castle in Kyushu, is not spared. A part of its huge walls crumbled to the ground. Its topmost roof is broken, too. It is a sad scene. It is a sad news.

    And today, Friday, the earthquake that occurred last night is the talk of the town. It’s all over the TV news reports, my Facebook timeline , and  News Agencies. Some say the “Big One” is coming. Scary. It reminds me that life is really unpredictable. We may live today, we may die tomorrow. Nobody knows. The world is ever-changing. Everything is. What is beautiful today may end up a wreck anytime beyond our comprehension.

  • The Amazing Autumn Trees that made me ‘Fall’ in love with Japan

    The Amazing Autumn Trees that made me ‘Fall’ in love with Japan

    It’s already September. The cold autumn breeze starts to kiss our sun-drenched skin in the long hot summer months. What a relief! Goodbye scorching (more…)