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  • Losing things in Japan again and again but they always come back except for one.

    I have seen a video about how honest Japanese people really are. Japan is the most honest country in the world as the video claimed. The guy in the video dropped his wallet on the streets of Tokyo fifty times and it was returned every single time. Most comments praised Japan and its Japanese people for their honesty.

    Upon reading the comments of praise and reading other people’s experiences, I remember my own. I also have few experiences of losing some things and claiming them back. It is very impressed really how honest Japanese people are and how incredible their system is.

    LOST LAPTOP

    One December many years ago, it was time to go back to the Philippines for a Christmas vacation. The airport was busy. And there at Fukuoka airport, I lost my laptop. I was in line to check-in but forgot my Residence Card at home, an hour drive away, which means it was impossible to go home and get it. We will miss our flight. So, the attendant asked me to wait until all passengers are accommodated so she can accompany me to the officer who will let me in without my Residence Card for as long as I will write a note. Long story short, I successfully checked in, went thru the security check and lined up to board my flight. Most passengers were already on board and few were left in the line to board. While in line, I suddenly realized my laptop that I was in my hands was not there anymore! I was already under so much pressure because of the long wait to check in and all the procedures I did to forget the Residence Card. I managed to get in the boarding gate with my flight about to leave and then again the lost laptop!! I got out the line and ran hurriedly to the security check and told them what happened. I couldn’t stay long to find it because my plane was leaving so I had to fly without my laptop. I lost it. I was supposed to give it to my niece. Fast forward to coming back to Japan, when I was leaving the plane, a man standing by the exit  was carrying a paper bearing my name. To my surprise, he took me to a room and returned my laptop. Things happened too fast I couldn’t even take a photo of him standing with my name. I felt like I was a celebrity for an instant. Lol.

    LOST CELLPHONE

    I lost my cellphone many times already in my almost ten years living in Japan. I am not very forgetful but I guess I am indeed affected by aging and giving birth and raising a child made me even more vulnerable to short memory loss.

    Incident 1

    One time, at Mr. Max, a discount store, I was busy checking the items and I did not realize I put my cellphone down in a shelf to check one item. It was in the desk and stands section. I moved around that section checking one item to another until I decided which item to get. I paid at the cashier and left the store. That’s when I realized the phone was not in my hand. It was about thirty minutes since. I hurried and went back to the desk station and there it was on the shelf unmoved.

    Incident 2

    I left my phone at Nafco, a home-improvement store, where I always frequent to get my plants. After Nafco, we went to another store. I did not realize that I lost my phone until we got home. By then, a good hour had already passed. When I went back to Nafco to check, I told the cashier that I lost my phone and the last time I remember I used it was at there store. All she did was asked about my phone’s description and voila! It was there and the lady handed it to me.

    Incident 3

    I left my phone in the toilet of Sunlive department store. I put it on top of the tissue holder and left the cubicle without picking it back up. I realized it right away, in less than five minutes upon leaving the toilet. When I went to check, it was not there already. I was feeling dumb. Goodbye cellphone. I dialed my number using my husband’s phone. It rang and a lady answered. She said she got the phone to make sure nobody will get it and she can return the phone to me (she already expected I would call to locate it). After a few minutes of call to locate each others location, I got my phone back.

    Incident 4

    I lost my phone in the airport toilet. Again, this time, I left it inside the cubicle. I only realized it when I got back to my seat in the waiting area. When I went back to find it, it wasn’t there. So I went to the information counter and told them what happened. I was asked about the phone’s description and tada! My phone was there. Somebody picked it up and gave it to the information counter.

    Incident 5

    This is the most recent. Yesterday, Tuesday, March 22, 2022 was a long day for us. I had to do errands in the morning and took my little girl to her one-year old pre-school club in the early afternoon. After that we took the train to go to Fukuoka City, meet my DH in Kashii station and from there we took the bus to go to the orchestra concert venue. This was also my little girl’s first bus ride. How exciting! I asked my DH to take a video of her getting on the bus. We sat at the backmost part so the three of us could sit side by side. After about twenty minutes, it was time to get off the bus. My DH carried our little girl and I stood up and took my bag. I heard the announcement that says “Make sure no valuables are left behind”. I stopped there for a split second but I did not go back and check our seat which I always usually do. Now, getting off and seeing the city with tall buildings and many new things for our little girl to experience, I grabbed my phone from my bag to take videos and photos of her. But my phone was not there! I checked and turned over the things inside my bag and I couldn’t find it! I looked back at the bus which was still in the bus stop loading and unloading passengers but I was thinking we were gonna cross the street already. I couldn’t decide and we were on the move. We had to get on the next bus. Which we did. I lost my phone. At the back of my head, my phone will come back to me. This is Japan. I will enjoy the concert, get home and I will figure out how to get it back tomorrow. Fast forward today, after a short email to Nishitetsu bus early in the morning, which was responded after about two hours, I was told to make a phone call to the island city to confirm. I didn’t have a phone so I used the phone booth at the convenience store. It was quick. We went there in the afternoon and got my cell phone back. This was the longest time that I lost my phone but I still got it back. I am really amazed. Although I felt bad because my little girl threw up inside the bus going back to Chihaya station. I realized she doesn’t like bus rides. One reason she wanted to take the taxi instead. But taxis in Japan are really expensive. And that’s another story.

    LOSING OTHER THINGS

    I lost my house key and wallet a few times also but all I needed to do was report it to the police or go back to where I left or last used them and they always come back. It is really amazing

    LOST AND NEVER FOUND

    But there is one thing I lost or rather stolen from me that never came back. It was my bicycle which I parked at the University parking. Yes. The university parking. I just parked it there for about twenty to thirty minutes and it was gone. It was my fault because I did not lock it believing it will be fine and that it is Japan! I left that bicycle parked outside my apartment unlocked for about a month and nothing happened so I was very confident. It was in the university! No one would dare! But I guess I was wrong. I reported it to the police and the university’s Lost and Found section but nothing happened. It was never found. Never returned.

    So yes, Japanese are honest and most things that are lost are granted to be found ninety percent of the time. But it doesn’t mean no one will steal and nothing will be stolen. Although it rarely happens.

  • My Toddler, My Life

    Having my daughter is definitely the best thing that happened to me in my whole life. She is my source of happiness and inspiration since the day I conceived her, to the the day she was born and more now that she is a toddler , an active two-year old little girl. She’s the sweetest, most helpful, most cheerful and most short-tempered little best friend I have ever had.

    Having her by my side keeps me busy and occupied and never alone even for a minute. Yes, my little one is so clingy. She goes wherever I go (even in the toilet). She gives me hugs and kisses. When I cough a little bit, she asks if mommy is okay and run to give mommy water to drink. She likes everything about mommy, most especially, mommy’s boobie. Those are her sleeping pills, her teddy, her toy, everything that she needs. She still never give them up despite her age.

    She likes to play with me with her little kitchen set, her puzzles, flag cards, and other toys. She likes mommy to blow bubbles with her. She helps mommy in the garden, too. She likes watering the plants and using her shovel to scoop garden soil. She even help mommy wash the dishes and hang the clothes at her age. Her favorite part is clipping the clothes with the clothespin. With washing dishes, it’s more like playing with water for her. But it’s fine coz she just wants to be with mommy.

    But, there is one special moment she wants mommy not to come near her. That moment that she’d rather hide behind the curtains or in the corner of her mini-slides. The moment that she is focusing her attention and energy to excrete something down below. She is not ready yet to use that small room mommy calls the toilet where a thing mommy calls potty is there waiting for her to sit on. I guess mommy has to wait for her readiness to do it.

    She loves to sing and dance. She likes incy wincy spider, number songs, and many others but she likes the birthday song the most. She even makes her own song by creating her own lyrics. She likes playing her toy fabric piano and dance to the tunes it plays. Doe a deer is her favorite tune in it.

    Having a toddler is not all smiles and giggles and smooth playtime. There are, of course, many moments of tantrums and throwing a fit just because one puzzle would not fit and she hates it right away or when she can’t make the tallest tower with her blocks. Or because she does not want to leave the park after hours of playing. Those moments she wants to keep watering mommy’s plants even though it’s flooded already and mommy stops her. Or those times when her diaper needs to be changed and mommy had to chase her or stop her from wiggling.

    The most difficult part, the scares from time to time. One time she ate fish and choked a little bit and it scared mommy to death she cried. And the latest that happened the other night, was also a choking scare.

    My toddler has been playing with a coinbank with real coins for a while now (like maybe two months).
    I was dumb ( realy dumb) to think it was good for her psychomotor development (precision in inserting coins) and I thought she is old enough to play with coins and not put them in her mouth which she never really did, until last night!!

    She was playing with her coin bank in the living room when I left to use the toilet. Her dad was with her and when I was walking down the hallway back to the living room, I heard my DH panicking that our girl was eating the coins!!😱
    He saw her spit few coins and I saw her spit a ten yen coin!!! I hurried and checked her mouth and there were no more. But we were not really sure if she swallowed some or what.

    I called #8000 to consult and they told me to observe her for signs like vomiting, coughing, pointing to her throat and to take her to the hospital right away if any sign is observed.
    I could not sleep well last night.

    Fast forward the next morning, I took her to her pedia to have her examined and good thing nothing was seen on her x-ray. And her doctor said if she swallowed any coin it will just come out naturally in her stool in a few days.
    Sigh! I’m now relieved a little bit but is still thinking about what if she swallowed it and all the worse thing that could happen.

    Definitely, a lesson for me.

    No objects smaller than a ping pong ball within her reach and never leave her unattended! Never!

    Having a toddler is like riding a roller coaster. It’s fun and exciting and scary at the same time. There are ups, there are downs and definitely there is an abrupt end. Children these days they grow so fast! She was just a little immobile, wordless tiny creature two years ago and now she is an always on the move tiny human – hopping, jumping, singing, dancing and talking. Few years from now she will be a school child, a teenager, a young adult, a professional. I only hope I could live that long to see her evolve into a wonderful wonderful person – a beautiful one as she is always is to me.

  • Renewing My Driver’s ’ License in Japan

    Almost six years ago, I got my first ever driver’s license here in Japan. I didn’t drive in my home country because it was more convenient to use the public transportation and the fact that my workplace is just a walking distance from my house, I found no need for me to drive.

    Fast forward to year 2019, I got a notice from the Drivers License Center that I needed to renew my license (that was around August).

    I would like to share my experience of renewing my drivers’ license for the first time in Japan. As a foreigner, it is not unusual to make mistakes or misunderstand an instruction written in full Japanese. It happened to me the first time I had to renew my license. I did not read/could not read the instructions clearly. I went to the driver’s license center too early for the renewal schedule . You can ONLY renew your license ONE MONTH BEFORE AND ONE MONTH AFTER your birthday. It was very disappointing the fact that I traveled so far to go to the bigger city to renew. I had to take the train, subway and bus but to no avail.

    One month after that I went again to the driver’s license center to renew my license making sure with the schedule.

    I would like to share the steps I went through during the renewal.

    Step 1. Acquire Forms.

    I went to the receiving desk and showed my driver’s license to get the Health Questionnaire and Renewal Form.

    Step 2. Answer Health Questionnaire

    To tell you honestly, I couldn’t read everything in the questionnaire because, of course, everything was in Japanese. I just used my common sense. I am healthy. I didn’t get sick so I filled all いいえ box. That means ‘no’. I don’t have any diseases or illnesses or hospitalized for some reasons.

    Step 3. Fill-up Renewal Form

    Filling up the renewal form was easy except for the address part where I had to write our new address which has three difficult kanji characters. Well, I used my Imiwa app which shows how to write a kanji so it was not really that hard.

    If there is a change of name and address, you have to present an ID or any document that shows the change. I used my Residence Card and my My Number Card.

    Step 4. Payment

    I paid ¥ 3,850. It was not a long wait. I finished in less than five minutes. At first, there were four people ahead of me but the collection was fast. There were three ladies collecting fee and another lady made sure that everyone was accommodated. No fuss.

    Step 5. Eye Test

    The line was long here. There were three lines and I chose the middle. All you have to do here was to look in the round glass thing and tell the personnel assigned where the letter C is facing. It’s either hidari (left), migi (right), ue (up) or shita (down). After that I was directed to go to the second floor window 6.

    Step 6. Encoding.

    This was fast. Two people were ahead of me but I also finished in less than five minutes.

    Step 7. Photograph.

    I lined up (I was third in line) and when it was my turn, the personnel gave me a number in a brown plastic and directed me to the photo booth where there was another man stationed there. He took my photo and I finished in less than one minute.

    Step 8. Renewal Lecture.

    I had to go to the fourth floor from the second floor and many personnel were waiting by the corridor guiding the people. One old man guided me towards my seat.

    The lecture was about an hour and it was on a projector from a PowerPoint presentation. One of the staffs came to me and told me that there is an English and Chinese subtitle so I don’t need to worry. Part of the lecture was a review about driving accidents and the importance of driving safely. The last part would make you really pay attention in driving or rather get scared because they will show real footages of vehicular accidents caught on dashboard cameras.

    Step 9. Releasing of Renewed License.

    After the lecture, names will be called one by one and they will give you your newly renewed driver’s license and that’s the end of it. You can now leave the premises and drive home carefully again.

    I was given another blue license that would last for two years.

    This year, 2021, I renewed my license again to a gold license, a license given to drivers without violation in five years. The procedure was pretty much the same and the only difference is I did not need to go to the testing center. There was a renewal center in my city dedicated for gold license. I only had to reserve online in advance because of the limited seats available due to COVID-19 limitations.

    And that’s all for how I renewed my driver’s license here in Japan. I hope you can get something helpful from it.

    Thank you for reading.

  • How I got my driver’s license in Japan – My Driving Story

    Back in my hometown in the Philippines, there was no reason for me to drive a car. Obviously, I can’t afford to have and maintain a car (with the meager salary of a public school teacher). My place of work was just a walking distance from my house anyway. About 5-6-minute walk. Who needs a car for that? The public transportation is easily accessible. There are taxis, jeepneys, tricycle, trisikad that will take you anytime, anywhere in the city, door to door if you like.

    Why did I need to drive in Japan

    In Japan, although public transportation is great, with their on-time scheduled trains and buses, I found myself needing to drive a car to my place of work.

    In my second year of being an ALT, I was assigned to teach in a far-flung, very small city, where there were no train stations. Where buses were only available once or twice in an hour. Later on, I had to move to the bigger city with my husband, but my company could not find any placement for me in schools located nearby train stations and they had to keep me teaching in that small city (more of a town). That’s when I decided to get a car, thus, needing to get a license.

    Enrollment at a driving school

    With the help and recommendation of my co-teacher, I enrolled myself in a driving school. Her son just graduated in that driving school and her referral earned her some referral cash. As for me, I got a small discount for the total amount. It costed me about ¥300,000 for the entire driving course. Yes! Driving schools in Japan are really expensive so better be ready if you are planning to enroll.

    The registration took hours. I had to fill up some papers (in Japanese, of course) and the receptionist had to explain (also in Japanese) many many things. From schedules, extra payments, rules, etc. etc.

    Driving lessons

    There were two types of driving lessons in my school: 1.) Classroom lessons, where we study using books, and 2.) the actual driving lessons. These lessons were taken simultaneously.

    I remember the very first time I visited the school, we had the orientation and diagnostic test – to evaluate our personality – what kind of driver we were. Well, that diagnostic test was unreliable in my case because the test was in Japanese and I was not that good in reading test-level Japanese.

    The next visit, I requested for an English book, which luckily the school had.

    The lessons were all conducted in Japanese by Japanese teachers. (Atarimae! That means ‘obvious’). In the beginning, I used both Japanese and English books. Japanese, so I can learn the kanji, and English, for comprehension. But, as the lessons moved further, I dropped the Japanese book and concentrated on the English one. It was not time to study Japanese or kanji but I had to focus on the driving lessons. Although I had to admit, I learned a lot of Japanese words. While the teacher was teaching in Japanese, I was reading the book in English. It was like I was watching a Japanese drama with English subtitles.

    The practical driving lessons were fun, exciting and challenging. My assigned teacher always made sure I understood her explanation and she even wrote some difficult instructions in English.

    I was very excited for the very first actual driving but got disappointed because the class was conducted in a room with a steering wheel in front of a monitor to represent a car. We were taught the very basics of driving. The first half of the driving lessons were done inside the school premises, and after taking a test (if you pass and get a learner’s permit), the rest of the actual driving lessons were conducted outside – in the streets, the real world of driving. The last actual driving lesson (before the final driving test) was to drive in the highway. It was really exciting and a bit scary at the same time. We were three students inside the car who drove alternately with our driving instructor.

    Taking the driver’s license paper test

    As many people in Japan says, taking the driver’s license paper test is hard, even for Japanese. The questions are tricky and the choices (it’s a multiple choice test) are almost the same. Out of a hundred items, you need to get 95 correct answers. Luckily, I could take the test in English. If not, there was no doubt I would fail. Reading Japanese itself is a test, how much more comprehending the difficult test questions.

    I took the test in a driver’s license testing center (unten menkyojo) located in Kitakyushu, a big city, north of Kyushu. The process was long but very organized. It started by filling up of forms, lining up to submit them on a window for evaluation, another line for payment (around ¥5,000), and then the test proper which was time-limited. After the test, you will know if you pass or fail by checking your assigned number on the TV monitor which flashes the numbers of test-takers who passed. Those who passed (and I am one of them fortunately), will have to line up again for eye test, picture-taking, and releasing of the driver’s license. Those who did not can leave the place and have better luck next time.

    Since I went to a driving school, there was no need for me to take the actual driving test in the testing center.

    It was a long but very fulfilling experience. I took and pass the test only once! Few people I know took it more or less ten times.

    I started schooling in the end of January and got my license in the end of March, 2016.

    Beginner driver

    Beginner drivers (shoshinsha) in Japan has to put the beginner driver’s sticker 🔰 – a yellow and green as you can see in the image. It should be posted in the car where it is visible outside. Veteran drivers should give leeway to beginner drivers.

    My very first time driving in the streets holding the real driver’s license was not a very nice experience. I drove in a very narrow two-way road (I don’t know why we got there) and another vehicle was oncoming. I had to stop and let the oncoming vehicle pass. Roads in Japan are pretty narrow but that road I went was really extra narrow. I only drive within our small city. From house to school and to some few places. My husband drives when it is a long-distance drive.

    License Renewal

    The first issued driver’s license last for three years. It is a blue license. If you drive without violations (caught violating) for five years, you will get the gold license.

    You will get a notification a month before your birthday, to renew your license. The renewal is good for about two months – one month before and one month after your birthday. Blue license renewal should be renewed in testing centers or renewal centers.

    I will write another article about license renewal.

  • Weaning my two-year old is harder than I thought

    Weaning my two-year old is harder than I thought

    I didn’t know that weaning is harder than when I was starting to breastfeed.

    More than the physical pain I felt in my breast when I started breastfeeding, weaning is breaking my heart seeing my baby, my then baby, now a toddler, struggling to let go.

    Tonight, more than ever, I felt really sorry for her and I gave in and lost.

    Here’s why.

    After bath time, she did her usual boobie time and accidentally bit my nipple to which I reacted with an intentional sniff but real tears. It really hurt. Really hurt. And she knew that she hurt me I could see it in her eyes. She came to me and opened her arms to give me a big hug. And out of that mommy crying scene, I thought of an idea. Why not put a band aid on my nipple (mommy got a boo boo because the baby bit her excuse). Not just one nipple, but both, even though she only bit one.

    Now, it was time to sleep but she couldn’t do boobie time. She asked me to read her before-bedtime book, the Goodnight Moon. So we read the book, but she wanted me to read it again and again and again and again – I was the one who became sleepy. Really sleepy. So I closed my eyes and cuddled under my futon. She wanted to do boobie but I told her she can’t and showed her the band aid. She tried to wake me up, make me stand, and tried to hide under the futon with me. She didn’t know what to do without the boobie. But I didn’t budge and pretended fast asleep.

    Until she got really sleepy and cuddled with me under the futon with her face leaning on my breast staring at the bandaged nipple. With her tiny little fingers, she tried to slowly remove the band aid. She didn’t know I was watching her over her head. Every time she hit my nipple, I said ‘ouch’ and pretended it hurt.

    It was heart-breaking to see my little girl trying hard to let go of her ‘before bed time boobie time’. But then I thought I have to be strong and this thing I am doing is for her. She needs to let go. She is turning two years old tomorrow!

    The thing that happened next tore my willpower into pieces of pity. I heard my little girl sniff and when I checked to see her face, she literally had the sad face with the corners of her mouth angled downwards, and worst, she had tears flowing down her cheeks while staring at my breast. It was so heart-wrenching to see her in that state.

    I’m all but weak.

    That was the end of my drama.

    I asked her what happened and she said “take off” while sobbing referring to the band aid I put on my nipple.

    And so poor mommy followed her master’s command. And just a few minutes after that, my little girl fell asleep with the boobie in her mouth just like what happens every night as we hit the sack and every nap time.

    Tomorrow is another day.

    I hope to have more strength and willpower to teach my little girl to let go and start a new journey as she grows up as a toddler – but my baby forever.

  • My 7 Years Life in Japan: A review

    ( I found this in my draft folder and realized it’s looong been overdue. I am almost 9 years here in Japan already. Reading this took me to memory lane so before this “evaporates” or sleep again in the draft folder, let me share it to you. It is incomplete and unedited yet, but, oh well.)

    2013 When I met Munakata, I met him

    In March 2013, I had to move to Munakata where my new university was located. It was the university I had to do my major study and field research. I moved into a private apartment. Bigger and neater than the one I had before. I did not have to share the kitchen, I had my small one in my room.  But the university was smaller and the place, Munakata City, even they call it a city, is way much smaller and inaka (rural) than Fukuoka City. My teachers in the previous university warned me and my friend (who was under the same program as I was and went to the same universities) that our new university is surrounded by mountains and trees. They were partly wrong though, the university was not “surrounded” by mountains. It was at the foot of the mountain! We had to walk uphill towards the university gate and another uphill to reach the main building and stairs and stairs to reach our classrooms.

    Although I had to admit, the place was beautiful. Very calm and serene. No tall buildings. No busy people walking around every corner. It was very green with the surrounding ricefields. The view of the sunset that reflects on the river was stunning.  And the mountain where our school sits by the foot of it is a refreshing view all day. I loved to go cycling in the afternoon. I have enjoyed sakura viewing by tsurikawa (name of the river) in spring. I was annoyed by the loud cries of cicadas in summer. In autumn, the university trees changed colors and it was beautiful. I loved watching the red spider lilies lined up the edges of the ricefields. And came winter, although it does not really snow that much in Fukuoka area, the view of the mountain covered with fogs and sometimes snow was incredible.

    This was the place I was trained to living on my own. To survive. I had a very funny experience with my friend. On our first night in Munakata we went to buy futons (beddings) for our new apartment. They were huge they would not fit on our bicycle baskets. We could not have it delivered that night since it was already closing time. No taxi around and we were helpless. We ended up carrying the futon from the store up all the way to our apartment by using the store`s pushcart in the late of the night.  That was more than a kilometer walk. I was mistaken to think that I could use in Munakata the excess garbage bags I had from Fukuoka. Each city in Japan has different garbage bags. I had to purchase again. I learned to carry things only men should carry and learned to assemble furniture (like that bookshelf for my new apartment and the bicycle I ordered online). I learned to order things online in a foreign language. I learned to take care of myself when I got sick and nobody was around to take care of me. I also learned that Japan is not what I thought after all. I trusted so much and got so overconfident that nobody would steal in Japan until my bicycle was stolen. Oh well. Lesson learned. Lock your bicycles when not in use.

    This was also the place I was really exposed to traditional Japan. The elderlies in the neighborhood were very nice to us foreign students. They took us to many Japanese events and places. They took us to an island to celebrate tanabata (star festival) and took us to a neighbor`s house to do nagashi somen (flowing noodles in bamboo). We did blue-berry picking, joined community events and a lot more. The university as well took care of us. My American professor was very nice to me. He was the first author I met in person. He indirectly encourage me to write. I learned many things from him. He took me to Kobe to join JALT (Japanese Association of Language Teachers). The university staff also let us join a very traditional event where we wore kimono and joined the community parade for a traditional wedding, the Japanese teachers took us to the city to watch kabuki, and took us to a junior high school to join an open class. And this was the junior high I met my now, husband. During that meeting, we were just strangers. We were introduced by circumstances. We were brought by fate together to meet in a school with other foreigners in a foreign land. That was the start of how we’re being acquainted with each other.

    2014 Say Hello to Tosu, first year as ALT

    The first three months of 2014 were the last months of me being a student. I did my field research and finished my Teacher-training scholarship. My professor reviewed and signed my thesis. I was counting the days before leaving Japan. It felt unreal that after a year and a half I would have to leave the place I learned to love. I wanted to stay longer. There was also a part of me so looking forward to being back in my home country again after a long time. I would be reunited with my family and friends, meet former students and co-teachers, eat Philippine food I had been craving for so long. My sister who lives in Japan wanted me to stay and work in Japan but there were no job offers. The only one I went to have an interview with, I did not like the offer. The salary was low and it was in Miyazaki. Very far away and super inaka. But days before our closing ceremony at school and I was scheduled to leave Japan, I got a job offer as an Assistant Language Teacher (ALT) in Tosu. I accepted it right away since Tosu is located just by my sister`s place. She was very happy. And of course, I was more than happy. I could stay longer in Japan. That was a Saturday when I got the call. Tuesday was our closing ceremony and my flight back to Ph was scheduled Thursday. The ALT training was from Monday to Friday but with some arrangements, the company let me skip some days during the training and just cope up when I get back.

    I was back in the Philippines on the night of March 27th, 2014, Thursday and the next day Friday I was in my elementary school to render my resignation. I was on personal leave for a year and a half but that time, goodbye was forever. I was too consumed by my fascination with my life in Japan that I did not think twice about leaving my home country, leaving my co-teachers, my friends, my students, and my family as well. I could not even do everything I wanted to do in the Philippines during my stay. I only stayed there for roughly three days and was back to Japan by Monday, March 31st, 2014.

    For me, it was an unforgettable come back. At that time, Cebu Pacific (low-cost flight) had no Manila-Fukuoka flight yet. My flight was Manila-Osaka and I booked another flight from Osaka to Fukuoka. My sister was hoping everything would be alright with the immigration knowing that my studies had already finished, they might refuse entry. But knowing that my visa was still good for two years (I had six months more to stay) I was confident I would be allowed to come back to Japan. And I was right. I had no problem with immigration. The problem was with my flight to Fukuoka. It was not until the next day (earliest flight) so I stayed at the airport (as poor as I was I could not afford a hotel and as scared as I was to get lost and miss my flight). I slept on the chairs in the waiting area with other waiting passengers and lined up the earliest time to make sure I was first in line. But when it was my turn, the airline refused my baggage because it was too big and overweight. I had to get out of the line and opened my luggage and tried to rearrange but to no avail. It was a little bit embarrassing knowing that there were many people around – passengers in line and airport staff. I could not care less. I had to do it. I had to line up again and settle to pay the extra weight but then again another problem exists. They don’t accept cash. Just credit cards which I did not have. My panic attack was on high. I thought I would miss my flight. If that would happen, I would be in a lot more trouble. I got my phone to call my sister but my phone was dead. Zero battery! I had to get out of the line again to find a power outlet and get a hold of my sister. She was my hero. I found one inside the toilet and contacted my sister and even though it was very embarrassing and not the best idea (but I thought it was at that time), I asked for her CC details. I could finally settle my baggage and my adrenalin was so high I ran to my boarding gate. I was so scared to be left by my plane I ran past all the passengers ahead of me until I got on the very first line only to find out I was still not late. I was so embarrassed with all those passengers I ran past. I looked like a freak.

    When I got to Fukuoka, while inside the train to Munakata, the sight of the blooming sakura calmed my nerves. It was a beautiful welcome. I cried in silence. Everything happened so fast like lightning the past few days. I went back to the Philippines. Resigned from my job. I left again and came back to Japan.

    With the help of my then friend turned boyfriend (now my husband), I moved my things out of my student apartment and kept it in his apartment for the meantime while I was in the Philippines. My company arranged a new apartment for me in Tosu, a fully-furnished apartment, and it was close to all my assigned schools. With the help of my sister and her Japanese husband, I moved all my things to my new home in Tosu.

    My first year as an ALT was full of excitement, fun, and learning. I was so excited to be a teacher again. To be with children again. I had been a teacher my whole life and I didn`t know any other job I could do. I was again amazed by the Japanese way – how disciplined they were, how on-time they were in any given activities, how very dedicated and serious the teachers were. They work from dusk till dawn. Well, not all of them but most of them do overtime (and overwork). They go to school early and leave school (very) late. Almost everything was different. I was amazed by the school lunch system. We don`t have that. There was no recognition and every student was treated equally. In my country, we announce every grading who did their best – top one, two, three and so on. In March we award gold, silver and bronze medals to the top three students and ribbons to the best performers but not in Japan. Medals are for sports and they close the school year in peace and instead give instructions on how to spend vacation safely and wisely. I was surprised by how slow and simple I should speak English to be understood. Slow like nothing more than four words when giving instructions. “Sit down please.” “Stand up please.” “Write your name.” “Make a line.” “Open your books.” And you have to do these with accompanying gestures. It was frustrating but it couldn`t be helped. Shouganai as the Japanese would say. “We are Japanese. We are in Japan. Speak Japanese” as some anti-English students would say.

    My love life was what they called LDR (Long Distance Relationship). My boyfriend lived in Munakata and I was in Tosu. The distance was about an hour and a half by train and about an hour by car. We met on weekends and technology made us keep our communication going. But it was not easy. There were times we wanted to stay together longer but we had to go back to our realities – to work. So the next year, I decided to work in a place closer to each other as much as possible or if not I would not be willing to work on that LDR thing – I was too old and done with that, I thought to myself. My sister wanted me to keep my post since my place was just a few minutes away from her but I knew I had to do something for myself. And so I did.

    2015 Life-Changing Events

    My last days in Tosu were a bit surprising to my schools and co-teachers. In the last school week of March, I got bad news from the Philippines. My dad was taken to the hospital and was in comatose. I couldn`t attend the closing ceremonies, which was also my last days in my elementary schools. I had to go back to the Philippines to see my father. It was at this time that I realized that not all who travel are happy and excited. Some have heavy hearts, sad and hoping. When I arrived in the Philippines, I went straight to the hospital. My mind was out I left my luggage in the taxi. Good that the driver noticed it and called my attention before I could ever enter the hospital entrance. My father was in ICU. It was terrible to see him there. The last time I saw him was when I spent Christmas and New Year with them, my family. It was also that time he met my boyfriend. When we left to Japan, he said to take care of each other. I gave him a hug which I usually don`t do. I spent my days in the hospital. It was so unreal. In the dawn of March 22, he passed away. And I was there in the room with my mother and with more than ten nurses trying to revive him. But that was that. Life left my dad cold in the bed. My dearest father was gone.

    In few days, I was back in Japan. I accepted the job offer of my company to move to Miyawaka, about twenty-five minutes away from Munakata by car. If Munakata is inaka, Miyawaka would be the queen of inaka. There was nothing there. No train stations. No malls. One Mc Donalds. One big supermarket where everyone goes to. Buses come in like once in an hour. Many Japanese friends did not know where Miyawaka is until you mention the nearby bigger city of Nogata. Wild pigs or inoshishi crossing the streets is not a thing to be surprised and raccoons and snakes are regular sights. One day, while I was on my way to school, a snake dropped from nowhere right in front of me I almost stepped on it and scared me to death. There were many abandoned buildings near my apartment including a big supermarket which made it seem the place was hit by an apocalypse. But despite that, I loved my apartment room. I love nature and the view of the ricefield and the mountains by my glass wall was perfect for me. It was a haven after a tiring day of work. The nearby river park was also perfect for my strolling and cycling. In fact, the picture you see in the `About Me` section was taken there.

    If there was one thing worth mentioning in my stay in Miyawaka, I would say it was the experience I had as an ALT. I was assigned to teach all kindergartens in that far-flung small city (there were five of them) and four elementary schools. I had to juggle all these schools in my monthly schedule. I had to visit the kindergartens once a month and once a week to the elementary schools. I was used to being observed by school and city officials and teachers as well. I was nervous at first but then they did it almost every week, I did not care at all. It helped me enhance my teaching skills. I learned how to adjust my teaching strategies to different groups of Japanese students. I learned how to work with many different kinds of Japanese teachers. Some passive. Some active. I had the experience to teach the smallest class I had ever have. That was in my farthest school. Very far I had to take two buses to get there. The inakaest school. One school has only eight grade six students and another kindergarten had only four. Those schools` populations were dying they had to close it for good the following year. That was how inaka the place was. One grade-six student told me he had to walk like an hour to get to school since he lived in the mountains and in winter when it snows, he could not make it to school. Coming from Tosu with about forty students in a class, I had a hard time at first how to teach a class with less than ten students. But after the first time, I knew what to do. Those students became better in English since they had all the time to participate in whatever activity we had. No excuses. Everyone had to recite and answer the Q and A. There were only eight of them anyway.

    Another important event that happened in my life in 2015, was that I got married. Yes. My boyfriend and I decided to make it official. Nothing fancy, nothing extravagant. Just the papers. We gathered the documents and submitted them to the city hall and that was it. We were married.

    2016 Back to Munakata Again

    One year in Miyawaka was enough. Whether my company would let me transfer or not, I was completely decided to move out of Miyawaka and live with my husband in Munakata. My company originally planned to move me to Okagaki, a town next to Munakata. But in the end, it did not happen. Instead, they told me to stay in Miyawaka. I needed to get a driver`s license so I can easily drive to school. I enrolled myself in a driving school which cost me a lot of money. Well, that is how it is in Japan. I started schooling in the last week in January and got my license at the end of March. Although I could officially drive with my license released, I preferred to work in Munakata but under a different company. I felt bad that I had to leave my schools and co-teachers in Miyawaka but I had to.

    In the spring of 2016, I worked in Munakata. New company, new co-workers, new-co-teachers, new students. I was back in the place I considered home in Japan. I recalled the times when I was there as a student. I missed my friend from Myanmar, who was now back in her country after our training had ended. Living in the same neighborhood as a student was totally different when I was a worker. No more sponsored trips and no more special invitations. I was a regular working citizen paying taxes. But it still was home for me.

    In the winter of 2016, I had my wedding ceremony and reception in the Philippines

    2017 Life of an OFW

    2018 A House is a Home

    2019 The Year of the Baby

     

  • A Diary I Found

    Tonight, as I was searching for my research paper in my hard drive, I found an untitled document with the first line saying “nine months have passed and nine months…” and when I opened it, it was an essay, or more like a diary I wrote more than seven years ago. I can`t believe I wrote more than 3100 words in that diary. I must have a lot of time then or maybe there were just so many things that amazed me that I wanted to share and write. Here it is:

    Nine months have passed and nine months more to go for my stay here in Japan. Halfway of my scholarship term. Since leaving my homeland, I cannot count the many great and first time experiences I have had for staying in a foreign land.

    It was in autumn when I first came to Japan as a scholar and I fell in love with the season right away. It felt like I was in a western movie scene I used to watch when I was still in the Philippines. I was so amazed how the leaves changed colors from green to yellow, and after that to many shades of orange and then to red. I was mesmerized by the view of the falling leaves that hit the ground and cover it like nature’s carpet. It was the first ever autumn experience in my life. I have never experienced it in the Philippines, where it’s summer all throughout the year. In my country, trees are always green.  

    The first time I saw a Ginko tree, I was with my friend, another international student from Myanmar, riding our bicycles on our way home from school. I was so amazed upon seeing its golden yellow leaves falling on the ground by the blow of the wind. We stopped and got off on our bicycles. It was so beautiful to ignore. We took a lot of pictures and even sat on the pavement to take a pose with the yellow autumn leaves carpeting the ground.

    It was this time when I was still new to the place, a foreign place, that I use to go around the neighbourhood on weekends visiting parks and playgrounds. I took pictures, a lot of them. Pictures of my new surroundings and the beautiful autumn leaves. I could feel the cool and soft autumn breeze on my skin. The beauty of nature engulfed me and autumn season had become my instant favourite.

    Not long after that, winter came, the season I scared the most. I have never experienced winter in my life. The lowest temperature in my city is around 24 degrees Celsius and for me that is cold.  I was told that in winter, the temperature could go down below zero. Below zero! Colder than inside a freezer. Definitely unimaginable for me. I could freeze and die, I thought.

    It was cold in winter. Really cold for me. I had to wear thick clothes which I was not used to. I wore many layers of clothes, heat-tech stockings, a scarf, a hat, gloves and boots. It took more time wearing clothes than usual. And more clothes to wash, too. It made me look fat in photos. It seemed like nothing was good about winter. Except that I was very amused when, for the first time I saw my breath that was white in cold winter days. I wanted to take a picture of it to show to my family but I couldn’t with my low resolution camera. I tried many times but I failed to take a vivid image of that white, cloudy vapor coming from my breath. I was like a kid! It’s funny just by thinking I was doing that.

    But, there was one thing I was so looking forward in winter. Snow. Yes. I was so excited to experience the first snow in my life. I used to always check the weather app to see when the first snow would come.  And when it finally came it was terrific. That moment was like a dream. An unbelievable sight! The morning the first snow was expected, I stood up by the window waiting for it like a mother waiting for his children to come from school. It was a Sunday morning when as I split the drapes open in my balcony, I saw some white bits of paper-strips-like thing floating in the air, and slowly as the wind blew harder, more of those white thing fell to the ground from the sky. And when I realized it was snow, that I had been waiting for so long, my heart beat fast and I wanted to scream for joy. I didn’t know what to do at first. Should I take a picture or a video? Should I go out and feel it? Then, I thought I should call my friend living two doors away from me to tell her of what was happening. However, she was still sleeping at that time and my call woke her up. And when I looked out the window again, the snow was gone, it stopped. It was just a light snow anyway. But days after that, the second snow was heavy. It turned everything around my apartment to white. Branches and leaves, roofs and roads, and the open ground of our dormitory park which is in front of my room had turned into white. A sea of snow indeed! And while I was enjoying the scene on the balcony of my room in the second floor, my dorm mates from tropical countries were outside running and playing with snow like kids. I saw them taking pictures with all smiles merriment with their eyes saying “Hey! It’s Snow! It’s Snow! We don’t have snow in our homelands, you know!”

    Although I find snow to be so fantastic, I still don’t like winter. One mid-winter morning, my friend and I went out to catch up an early train going to the University we will soon be enrolling the next semester. We were just in our dormitory’s parking area ready to leave when I realized that I left my gloves in my room, but, because I thought it was alright without it and that the cap, jacket, scarf and boots I wore were enough to help me get through the cold morning, I shrugged my shoulders and left. We were riding on our bicycle going to the train station and before even reaching our destination I felt that my fingers were slowly freezing and later my hands became very painful. I felt that my hands would explode and I did not know what to do. My cheeks were also icy cold as we were cycling against the winter breeze. I kept on going but the station was still about two hundred meters away. That time I was crying inside of me but I pretended to be strong. It was too painful to bear. If only I went back to my room and got my gloves, it would have been a different situation. I could not be suffering like that. I thought that something bad would happen to me like maybe I would collapse or just stop breathing instantly. When at last we reached the train station and saw a vending machine, an idea came into my mind. I stopped my bicycle and hurriedly ran into the vending machine, searched my wallet for some coins and scanned through the products that said “HOT”.  Even though I don’t drink coffee, I pressed the button and out came the hot black coffee in can. I immediately wrapped my hands around it and it somehow eased the pain. Sigh! That was close to an emergency. Then, we properly parked our bicycle at the parking area of the train station located about fifty meters away from the main entrance.  Before we could even get back to buy our ticket, the hot can of coffee in my hands had become cold. We walked hurriedly again and got inside the convenience store just right in front the ticket counter and bought some small hot bag the Japanese called “Kaero”. Those little bags of “Kaero” helped me survived the icy trials of the cold winter days.

      Since then, every time I see a can of black coffee, I remember how tough it is during winter and how risky it is to forget little things I think are not important, which could put myself into danger or simply make an experience really unforgettable.

      Winter almost bade goodbye and spring was around the corner when we moved from Fukuoka City (the biggest city in Kyushu, Japan) to the farther and smaller city to the North, Munakata City. We had to move because we were assigned to attend two Universities. One semester (six months) in Kyushu University in Fukuoka City for the Japanese Intensive Course and two semesters (one year) in Fukuoka University of Education in Munakata City for our major study.  

      It was the night of March 1, Friday, another memorable date in my stay in Japan.  You will never know the things you can do until you are put into a difficult situation where you have no other choice but to be decisive and take the risk or even break the rules.

      Let me start it this way. With the help of my sister and my brother-in-law, we were able to transport our things from our previous dormitory to our new apartment using their car. It was big enough to carry our entire luggage, including two bicycles and a washing machine. We arrived at our new apartment at around two in the afternoon and after unloading all our things, I let my sister and her husband leave since I was too ashamed to ask for more help the fact that they had been helping us move out the other day. I thought I could handle the rest of the things with myself. So, that was it. After they left and after eating the burger and fries set we ordered from McDonald’s drive-thru, I started figuring out where to put things and how to arrange them to make my new little room homey as much as I could. My friend living in the next door also did the same. An hour or two later, representatives from the gas and internet connection office arrived simultaneously to set the registration and everything and with our handful skill of the Japanese language, all went well.  After the transaction, I and my friend decided to go to the nearest department store they called Mr. Max about a kilometre away from our apartment to buy beddings since the apartment we just moved in had no bed sheet, no pillows, no blanket, no warmer, nothing at all. Just bed. Unlike our previous dormitory that was all furnished. In our new apartment, we had to buy or else how could we sleep comfortably, especially that night. It was around five in the afternoon when we left our apartment and it took us hours to select and decide which beddings to buy. It was not that we were picky but the reality was that we didn’t know exactly what to buy and we were also considering our budget. Finally, after my friend said she got a bit headache of thinking which is which, she decided to buy the set beddings disregarding the price while I selected each piece of items with colors that coordinates. After paying at the cashier, the biggest problem that we realized that night was how to bring those big packs of beddings to our apartment since those were large they won’t fit on our bicycle’s basket. We could not even carry them with one hand. When we asked an employee if there’s a way that could help us carry those things, he directed us to the delivery section. It was almost the solution but after a few exchange of conversation with our tattered Japanese with the person behind the counter, we realized that the items will be delivered the next day and not that night as we wanted. So we withdrew our transaction and went out the department store waiting for a taxi to pass by. But not even a taxi came and the department store’s lights lit off one by one. It closed. Also, the cars parked in front of us slowly went one by one. If only I had the confidence to stop them and say “Hey! We need help! We need transportation. Please carry us to our apartment nearby.” But, I was not that desperate, or let us say I was not that tough to admit I was weak.  It was also impossible to ask help from my sister since she lives one-hour away from our new place. So we remained outside waiting, thinking and discussing for a solution what to do with our luggage with our tired body and empty stomach. We pushed our Mr. Max cart fully loaded of those big packs of beddings towards the brighter area of the car park. Then after a few steps, we pushed few steps more. Until we came up with a brilliant idea. “Why not push this Mr. Max cart with our luggage down to our apartment and leave our bicycle here in exchange. We will just push the empty cart back here and get our bicycle back.” We were laughing and doubtful at the same time when we thought of that. At first, my friend was hesitant because it would be too distracting and embarassing to be seen pushing a fully-loaded Mr. Max’ cart down the road at night and said “Dame to omou” which means “I think it’s not allowed”. But, I insisted. It was the only choice left and my tired body and mind couldn’t think of another way to resolve that helpless situation. So we started pushing the carts at the silence of the cold night. When we passed by the high-way, it was tolerable. No nearby houses to see us and most of the apartments were high and far enough not to notice us pushing. But, the shame started to slap at our face when we passed by the narrow and somewhat downward street near the train station going down straight to our apartment. We looked so weird pushing those carts with heavy loads having a hard time controlling the cart since the loads were too big to be able to see the steep road in front of us. The steel carts also made a very disturbing noise in the rough road that every time we push, it seemed that it would awaken all the sleeping residents of the apartments nearby. It was when we crossed the first intersection that my friend decided to quit pushing and instead suggested to carry the luggage with our hands, maybe because of fear and shame at the same time. So we made up another plan. She would go alone and carry her big pack of set beddings to our apartment while I will wait in the corner and take guard of the rest of the luggage and the two carts. So, she went, and I was left at the corner alone in the cold and dark night. At that moment, I realized how difficult it is to live alone in a foreign land.  And how difficult it is not to think in advance or plan ahead. Minutes passed and she came back. We carried all the rest of the luggage with our hands and left the two carts in the corner. From that corner, our apartment was about two hundred meter-far. We were laughing at ourselves while walking. We even took pictures carrying the luggage in a narrow weakly-lighted street. After several steps, and rests, we finally arrived at our apartment building. We were so hungry we had instant noodles for dinner right away. Although we wanted to rest, we could not because we still had to walk the carts back from where we took them which means we still have to walk a kilometre away. Going back to Mr. Max was even more shameful because the empty carts even sounded noisier than with loads in them. It couldn’t be helped so we went our way.  It was around ten in the evening at that time. The few people we happened to come across showed a surprised face seeing us pushing those carts. Finally, we walked past the narrow street and while on the high way we couldn’t stop laughing at ourselves while pushing the carts. We looked silly but we made it. We took the risk. We took the shame. We never imagined we could do a thing like that. We left the carts in front of the main entrance of Mr. Max and rode our bicycle back to our apartment feeling contented we were able to surpass a difficult situation. We slept that night feeling the comfort of our newly bought and self-delivered beddings. And that was how our night ended. From then on, we could never forget Mr. Max and March 1. The 3M’s of our student’s life in Japan. It would be better if we can give a nice meaning to 3Ms. Manly because we acted like a man when we carried those big things. Magnificent because the idea was somewhat unimaginable. And, Memorable because simply, how can we forget an experience such as that?  

    There will be more memorable experiences ahead of us as we go on with our lives here in the land of the rising sun.

      It is rainy season as of this writing. We have to go to school five times a week with expectations of a strong wind and irregular light to heavy rains. Opposite to winter, it feels so hot this season at early mornings, hotter than I thought it would be and with rain showers starting to pour in the afternoon, it is hard not to catch Mr. Virus. He hit me once few weeks ago and it was tough. It was also one of my most dreaded things to happen while I’m here – to get sick while I live alone. But I also survived that. I took care of myself without the usual care I used to get from my mother at times I get sick.

    The next thing I dread about is experiencing summer heat here. My Japanese friends said “Mada, mada natsu janai yo!” It’s not yet summer. Which means it will even be hotter months from now. “Demo, shouganai!” It can’t be helped. On the brighter side, I am looking forward for that time to come. For I am sure more experiences will be added to my list. Some more lessons will be learned.

      I would be forever grateful to God and all His people, the government of Japan for granting me this scholarship. The experiences I had and will have during my stay here will help build a new me. An empowered woman, an independent person yet never perfect. For nobody’s perfect.

      We will always be put into trials and difficult situations and it will be up to us to either sink or swim in the waves of life.

  • 13 Months and 13 Days Being A First-Time Mom

    13 Months and 13 Days Being A First-Time Mom

    Today, Friday, December 4th, year 2020, while sitting in the reclining with baby in my arms, I figured that it’s already been 13 months and 13 days of me being a first-time mom.

    How time flies. Now, she’s no longer a baby – baby. Although I still call her baby and she will always be my baby.

    CHANGES

    A lot has changed since she was born. She can walk now. She imitates us. She tries to talk on the phone like her dad and she makes sounds like I do. The sound I make when I am upset telling her not to do certain things, like throwing toys or spitting food.

    She can tell us what she wants to do. Like when she points to the TV to watch her favorite show cocomelon or when she hands us the bubble sword or the colored top. She can tell me when she is thirsty, too. Yes, she drinks water now. When she was exactly one, on her birthday, she started drinking water, straight from the glass. Before her first birthday, it was very very hard to make her drink water from her sippy. She just didn’t like it. She just won’t.

    STILL MY BABY

    But, one thing does not change. She is still a boobie-lover baby. She just won’t give it up yet. Still like a newborn. Boobie upon waking up, snacks, nap time and bedtime. And sometimes, well, most of the time, she prefers boobie over food. I have to do many tricks so she’d eat her food. Although sometimes she’s unpredictable and she would eat like a lion. She likes fruits. She loves oranges and bananas. But, boobie is what she loves most.

    FIRST FEVER, FIRST MISHAP

    A week before her birthday, she got her first fever. I took her right away to the clinic and she got her medicine. That was October 16. That morning we went for a walk and she was very happy and singing while we were walking. But, at noon, her left cheek turned very pink and she was warm. She ate a lot for lunch but threw up minutes later so I decided to take her to the clinic. She got better the next day.

    About a week later, the worst thing happened. It was a cold day and I decided to move the humidifier from the Japanese room to the living room. She was amused by the smoke coming out if it and later touched the humidifier and got a burn in her tiny hand. The right hand. Of course, it was my fault. Why did I put the humidifier on the floor where she can reach? I felt like I was the most stupid, useless mother in the world. Poor baby.

    That was when I decided to take her to her doctor again. She had runny nose for days and I was hoping it will just go away by itself but no it didn’t. Runny nose and a burn are more enough reasons to go see her doctor.

    If only I could turn back time, never would I put that humidifier on the floor. Now, that mishap will haunt me forever. I couldn’t forgive myself for weeks. Well, now, I feel more forgiving to myself coz the burn mark is almost gone. It’s a learning curve.

    MORE TIME WITH BABY

    Another thing, we decided not to put her in daycare next spring, which means me, being a full-time mom is extended. We realized she is just too little to be left in the care of strangers. At first, I was kind of disappointed because, yeah, I wanted to go back to work. Be my old self again. But, I can’t leave my baby. She is the most precious person, the most important thing in our lives right now. And she needs me. So, I stay as a full-time mom.

  • My Baby Boss

    My Baby Boss

    I always react when somebody says I DON’T work.

    I DO work!

    I just don’t leave the house. I don’t do paperwork. I don’t teach a bunch of children but I do one-on-one teaching. And my baby is my student.

    And my student is not just any ordinary student.

    She is also my boss.

    She’s not just any other boss.

    She is my baby boss.

    In fact , I am her slave.

    She can’t speak but she dictates me what to do.

    Just one smile and I smile more.

    Just one giggle and my heart melts.

    Just one cry and I bend to pick her up.

    And because she can’t speak, it’s hard to figure out what she wants. She can only cry. I have to do many things before she calms down. I dance. I sing. I tell her stories. I massage her. I change her diaper.

    She controls my time.

    I can’t eat when she’s not in the mood. I have to tend to her.

    I can’t use the toilet coz she sleeps on me. I’m her bed.

    She needs me all the time.

    ALL the time.

    She needs me when she’s hungry. I’m her food. She gets hungry every now and then. Day and night. Dusk till dawn.

    I clean her up when she pees or poos. Many times a day.

    I give her bath and I have to be gentle and careful because she is very delicate.

    She can’t sleep without me. I’m her swing. My arms are her best bed. It’s close to my heartbeat – her favorite music.

    More than that, she needs the booby in her mouth to sleep – for comfort. If not, she just want to feel it on her cheek and on her palm.

    I am her everything.

    And she is my everything.

    I don’t care if I have dishes waiting to be washed.

    It can wait.

    She comes first.

    I don’t sleep straight because I need to take care of her.

    I stay by her side when she sleeps. I watch her. I feel her chest moving up and down. I make sure she’s okay and breathing.

    Although, sometimes, when she’s in a good mood and busy playing, I admit I sneak.

    When I sneak, I don’t play. Nor rest.

    I wash dishes and vacuum the floor. I run the washing machine and hang clothes. I prepare meal. I fold the clothes. Doing these things while checking her at the same time – if she’s fine.

    But only one cry and I come to serve her – my baby boss.

    Sometimes, I feel punished for no reason. Don’t get me wrong. She doesn’t punish me intentionally. But her bites to my nipple really hurt I cry. It’s not all the time though. Just sometimes.

    But, there’s one thing I can do that she doesn’t and can’t complain. – I get to decide what she wears. I dress her up. I put on her head colorful ribbons.

    I take pictures and videos of her – a lot – everyday. It’s my pastime.

    There’s also one thing I do that even myself don’t understand why I’m doing it. The baby language I do, that even I, don’t understand. My voice is high-pitched and I babble. I call her ping-gi-ding-king, ping-king-king, pa-lang-dang-dang, kidik-ding-ding. I don’t even know what these means.

    It’s like an automatic response when I see her cute face.

    I don’t have a holiday but everyday is a special day.

    I have no break time and even though I get tired, being with her and serving my boss is still the the best time I could ever spend.

    And oh! I don’t get paid. There is no monetary compensation. I get more than that. It’s the compensation that money can’t buy. It’s the precious memories and amazement of seeing my baby boss growing everyday, gaining muscle control, developing her senses, acquiring language skills.

    In the near future, she’ll be needing me less and will be the boss of her own.

    And when that time comes, I will surely miss these times when she’s little and boss me around unknowingly – my ever dearest baby boss.

  • Coronavirus Effects in our Society

    Covid-19 has been flooding the news headlines everyday. We see the number of cases and death tolls go up. As of this writing, there are already about 114,000 cases around the world with about 4,000 deaths. (More detailed information here )

    We see different reactions and opinions from people – ordinary folks and politicians alike.

    Some say it’s really serious and deadly. Some say its nothing but some kind of flu that is just being exaggerated and sensationalized.

    In my observation, this virus certainly bring out some good and many bad things in our society- faster and worse than the virus itself.

    Let’s start from the more obvious and dominating.

    The NEGATIVE SIDE.

    1. FEAR

    Fear is not always negative. Sometimes, it is positive. But with Covid-19, it’s the negative effect of fear that drives people to resort to PANIC BUYING. Fear of not having enough supplies when pandemic strikes. Not only in China, where the virus originated, but also Japan, Australia, USA, and other countries, that people emptied the stores of masks, hand soaps, sanitizers, rice, and for some “mysterious” rather crazy reason, toilet paper. It is the game of psychology, social pressure and conformity – to do what others do. You buy, I buy, we buy, everyone buys. It’s more contagious than the virus. It’s fueled with the anxiety of what if’s. “What if we run out of this?” “What if we run out of that?” “Better safe than sorry.”

    Fear of Asians/Chinese since its in China that the virus is said to originate.

    Fear of people, of crowd, of gatherings.

    Fear of the unknown.

    Rice area in the supermarket

    Hand sanitizers section

    2. GREED

    The real opportunists disguised as business people found this situation very much appealing, the chance of a lifetime. They joined the hoarding and sell the items in way more higher, ten times as much, the original price. How can a box of mask cost about ¥20,000 online when it was originally priced at about ¥2,000?

    3. HATE

    Nobody wants to get infected and anyone who manifests as carrier or identified as originating from an infected country, is shunned, blamed, bullied and worse, beaten. A confrontation occurred because one train passenger coughed. In the beginning of the outbreak, many people are asking its government to close its doors to all Chinese – as if all Chinese, ALL OF THEM are infected. Hate brings forth distrust and division among people.

    4. IGNORANCE

    Just because someone looks like Asian or Chinese doesn’t mean the person is infected. Just because the number of infected person goes up doesn’t mean they all die. Just because other people are grabbing toilet paper in the supermarket that you need to grab one for yourself as well just for the sake of joining the “trend”. If you really need it, that’s understandable. But, buying because others are buying, I think is not. Everyone should equip themselves with the proper knowledge and information to avoid this act of ignorance.

    5. DIVISION

    Countries are closing its borders to avoid the spread of the deadly virus. Recently , Japan has canceled visas of Chinese and S. Koreans. S. Koreans retaliate by doing the same.

    6. BUSINESS BANKRUPTCY

    The effect of coronavirus on business establishments is certainly not good. It is indeed “deadly”. Many tourism-related business establishments like hotels and tour services bankrupt because of travel bans. Not just establishments but cruise ship operator as well. Many concerts and events are canceled. Even Tokyo Disneyland is closed for two weeks in March.

    Now, let’s look at the POSITIVE SIDE

    1. HEALTH CONSCIOUSNESS– More people become more conscious about health, hygiene and sanitation. Frequent hand-washing and disinfecting lead to lesser flu cases compared to the previous years. At least the panic buying of hand sanitizers did not go to waste.

    And while other go insane by stockpiling tissue and toilet papers, others buy hand soap and vitamins. Taking vitamins and supplements is also another way to boost the body’s immune system.

    Wearing mask has also become a necessity and some schools and offices make it a requirement.

    2. CREATIVITY – Because masks are nowhere to be seen, some people went back to basic home economics by making their own homemade mask.

    3. INITIATIVE

    The positive side of panic buying is that people, specially mothers, make sure that their families will never go hungry by buying and stockpiling basic necessities making sure the pantry is full enough in case pandemic is to happen.

    Country and community leaders implement measures to avoid the spread of the virus. Japan cancels classes in the elementary, junior high and high school for the whole month of March. Not just Japan but also in the US.

    4. SENSE OF HUMOR

    Some mask manufacturers add humor by using funny mask like the one below.

    Photo from Facebook of Shernan Lanoy

    There are a lot of Facebook posts related to Covid-19 that will make you laugh. Just check your timeline and you’ll see for yourself.

    I have this one for example:

    Screenshot from my Facebook timeline

    I, myself, is scared of what is going to happen with this new virus. Although I did not join the panic buying. Well, I almost did. The fear of the unknown is really contagious. It makes me more conscious of my health. I am hoping that this will pass soon. I also hope no one of my family and friends will get it. For now, I will just enjoy the funny posts in my timeline.